In answer to the wildly popular quote, Be the kind of woman that when your feet hit the ground each morning, the devil says, “Aw crap, She’s up!”, here is one for you men out there.
Be the kind of man that when you step out of the house each morning, goddess Athena* declares “Now THAT’S what I’m talking about!”
Do you want a woman
who surrenders her heart and body to you? Then here’s a clue for you!
Most of us REALLY DO value your integrity, your valor, your strength, your commitment to excellence, your intelligence, your ability to generate and maintain an income, your encouragement, your passion, your humor, and of course to be honored by you.
Think this is a tall order? We don’t!
For many females out there, there’s not much sexier than a man with these qualities. Well, these qualities and one more SUPER important talent, COMMUNICATION. I didn’t include this in the qualities, because for the most part, effective communication (which includes listening) has to be learned. One of the biggest frustrations we woman can experience is a man who hasn’t learned the talent (and doesn’t have the courage) to speak what’s so, and to really listen to and hear what we’re saying.
One of the biggest turn-ons is a man who is confident in who he is, what he wants, and what he thinks and feels…and to have to ability to communicate it!
It’s a talented man, indeed, who is able to talk with a woman, and get her to slow down her mind and help to alleviate her worries.
If you’re this kind of man, we’ll be absolute putty in your hands in the bedroom. And that’s good right?!
All good to you!
Donna M Thomas
Intuitive Life Coach, Healing Conduit, Mastery Group Leader,
Author of From Pebbles to Pathways: A Journey of Healing the Heart, One Insight at a Time
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This blog, and all my writings, are explorations into the wondrous, deep, and ever-evolving process of living, loving and growing. My intention with Pebbles for Thought is to empower and uplift, one post at a time.
* Athena: Goddess of wisdom, courage, inspiration, civilization, law and justice, just warfare, mathematics, strength, strategy, the arts, crafts, and skill.
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“When working with people, I am often asked what it takes to have a strong feeling of personal power and confidence. I have noticed these days that even though many have done some amount of personal development work, when it comes right down to it, there is at least one of eight important practices that is being dropping out of their daily life. It is this or these that cause feelings of lack of power, lowered self-confidence, and depleted energy – all of which lead to unhappiness and feeling unfulfilled.
“To aid you in seeing what elements are crucial in creating and maintaining a deeply fulfilling life, I created The 8 Practices of Authentic Power: Creating a Foundation for Personal Mastery.“
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sted below are the practices that have already been explored:
Practice #1
Heal Your Fear, Surrender to Love
Practice #2
Be In The Present, Pay Attention
Practice #3
Maintain a Vision That is Larger Than You
Practice #4
Do What Inspires You. Take Actions That Are In Alignment With Your Vision
And here is Practice #5 – Take Responsibility for Your Actions, Your Experience, and Your Future
This one takes SO many people out of the playing field.
Since “the only person you have power over is yourself” 1, and given that “The buck stops here,” 2 and “No matter where you go, there you are,” 3 and because “No one ever did, or ever will, escape the consequences of his or her choices,” 4 and given that you are asked to “be the change you wish to see in the world,” 5 (you get where I’m going with this?) everything starts and ends with you.
Without personal responsibility, you live a lie and remain disempowered. You blame, become resentful and/or hostile, and project onto others. You might hear yourself saying things like, “This part of my life doesn’t work because when I was __ he or she did/didn’t do ____” or, “If he/she would only do/stop doing ____ then I would be happier” or, “I can’t help it, the devil made me do it” or, “This is your/his/her fault” or, “I’m just not happy/making money/in a great relationship” and lastly, “You’re making me feel like ___.”
Have you ever known someone who constantly makes others the scapegoat for their problems and their feelings? I sure I have, and they’re the most unhappy and angry people I know!
Conversely, the most successful and happy people I know are accountable for:
- what they feel in reaction to outside stimuli (meaning, taking responsibility for their part is what they feel)
- what they do or don’t do
- what they have and haven’t yet created
- what their life looks like, and
- the results or consequences from all of these
If you depend on others to give you what you want, you may be waiting for a long time, even a lifetime or two, and living in a state of constant frustration and disappointment while in the process! Doesn’t sound like much fun, does it?!
There is simply no escaping that a very logical and effective way to create inner and outer change is to first see, and take responsibility for, who and what you are, and where your life is now.
With this type of honesty, you’ll gain insight and cultivate authenticity, both of which foster personal power.
From this point (seeing where you are now), you can begin to create the real and lasting change you desire. You do this by:
- getting very clear about what you really want
- seeing the space/distance between where you are now and where you’re aiming, and
- taking intelligent steps towards what you want, starting from where you are
It’s important to be crystal clear and honest about where you are now. If you aren’t, then you’ll begin your journey from a false place or a fantasy, which will make you feel like a phony, create disillusionment, and make you stop or sabotage yourself.
I’m all for focusing on what’s best about yourself. You can’t grow well and quickly if you’re not affirming what’s right in you. The sweet spot here is seeing what’s possible AND telling the truth about where you are now.
There’s a reason why so many personal development seminars teach this. You just can’t get around it and get anywhere in life!
Now for a note on over-responsibility.
For those of you who take responsibility for others’ behavior/actions/life, you’re mistakenly thinking that this is taking responsibility for your life. That some how, by fixing “them”, they will get you what you want. Stop it! You’re not helping yourself. You’re over-burdening yourself.
You do this for a variety of reasons. But the most common is:
- you attempt to compensate for what someone else isn’t doing because they’re not providing what you need from them. i.e. if some “can’t” 1) communicate well, 2) process/manage their emotions, 3) take care of themselves, 4) manage their affairs, you’ll do it enough for the two of you!
As you can see, this has the potential to get really muddy. When you take on someone else’s “stuff”, you increase your load, making it more laborsome to fulfill yourself. Plus you rob the other person the opportunity to grow. Some would call this “co-dependent”. I do my best though to refrain from such labeling as it perpetuates the idea that you are irrevocably “ill”, which I don’t believe for a minute!
Go ahead and “be the change you wish to see in the world”, just be sure you’re doing it for yourself, and not attempting to change someone else to get your needs met through them. This is a vicious and unrewarding circle!
When you take responsibility for your actions, your experience and your future, you’ll go from a muddy, potholed dirt road to four lane freeway! You’ll see how quickly the sense of power and possibility takes you over and propels you where you want to go!
If this post resonates with you, check out my Intuitive Coaching work HERE.
All good to you,
Donna M Thomas
Intuitive Life Coach, Healing Conduit, Mastery Group Leader
Author of From Pebbles to Pathways: A Journey of Healing the Heart, One Insight at a Time
Be the kind of man that when you step out of the house each morning, the Goddess Athena declares, “Now that’s what I’m talking about!”
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This blog, and all my writings, are explorations into the wondrous, deep, and ever-evolving process of living, loving and growing. My intention with Pebbles for Thoughts is to empower and uplift, one post at a time.
Quotes:
1 Moi
2 Harry S Truman
3 Confucius
4 Alred A Montapert
5 Mahatma Gandhi
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Hello everyone!
This is my new Intuitive Coaching information page. It now has a permanent tab on this site (see above). I am writing this in a blog as well so that y’all can see what I’m up to.
Check it out!
I’ve got some other great stuff coming down the pipeline (like the half-off special on my coaching sessions, coming soon). So, if you’d like to be the first to know, click HERE to sign up to receive my updates. I won’t overload you with emails. I promise!
All good to you, always and in all ways!
Donna M Thomas
Intuitive Life Coach, Healing Conduit, Mastery Group Leader, Author
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From Donna M Thomas
Intuitive Coach
“It’s rare that a person can navigate happily and successfully through life without a support system to act as guide, coach, confidant, cheerleader, or butt-kicker. Someone who can offer a source of consistent and effective support.
Without this kind of support, it’s likely that at some point, you’ll find yourself caught in the quagmire of your mind. You’ll end up sabotaging or blocking yourself from being the person you want to be and creating the life you want.”
Do you find yourself challenged in any of these areas?
- Maintaining confidence and an empowered vision of yourself?
- Keeping yourself inspired or happy?
- Taking enough quality time out for yourself?
- Consistently pursuing your dreams and goals?
- Moving forward with your life?
- Getting past pain and resentment?
- Keeping conversations and your focus on the positive?
- Maintaining connection with your inner life and personal needs while being out in the world?
- Being emotionally intimate with and available to others?
If you said yes to any of these, then read on!
Donna’s Work
For the past 18 years, Donna has worked professionally, helping people clarify what has kept them hostage, blocked, and stuck.
With these insights, she is able to guide her clients to more effective, healthy and inspired ways of functioning, both personally and out in the world.
Here are some of the things you can expect to come away from your one-on-one sessions with Donna:
- Insight to identify what has stopped you thus far from creating what you want
- Tools to recognize, reveal, understand and release fear
- Increased emotional intelligence (the ability to perceive, evaluate, manage, and communicate about emotions)
- Understanding the importance in transparency, and the confidence to achieve it
- Courage in intimacy and in love
- Increased spiritual and emotional depth
- Clarity on your vision of your ideal life
- Greater commitment to what you’re most passionate about!
Coaching Sessions
Donna’s sessions are available in 15-minute, 30-minute, and 60-minute increments. Recordings are available upon request.
To book your 15-minute session, or for more information, click HERE.
To book your 30-minute session, or for more information, click HERE.
To book your 60-minute session, or for more information, click HERE.
About Donna
An Empowerment and Life Coach, Donna synthesizes her abilities as both an intuitive and an empath with her 35 years of training in personal development. For the past 18 years, she has worked with women and men alike, as well as teens.
She will guide you to: 1) reveal and release tricky and often undetected fears and disempowering beliefs that keep you blocked, and stuck; 2) discover which of your fundamental needs have been ignored…and how to get them met; and 3) get clear about, focused on, and taking action towards what you really want in life.
Donna’s work shifts your ‘Trim Tab’ (the tiny, trailing part of the ship’s rudder, which when a low amount of pressure is applied, changes the direction of the entire ship). She offers new understandings, shifts in perspective, and effective practices. With these, you’ll begin to move in a happier and more fulfilling direction. In other words, she helps you get your shi…p moving!
“Donna’s combination of a mind, body, and spirit treatment has yielded noticeable healing in my mind and heart, and positive shifts in my life. Two and a half months of working with her has brought about far more benefits than the last ten years working with other forms of treatments—traditional and alternative. Donna is both compassionate and direct in her dialogue, and her thoughtfulness, respect, and intuition shine through her work.” – M. Hart, Parent, Teacher, Explorer
Specific Areas of Expertise
☯ Revealing and Releasing Fear* is at the heart of Donna’s work
(* Fear – conjured emotional fear, as opposed to the necessary fear response that prevents harm)Fear is at the core of all unrest and long-term emotional suffering, and is the most powerful, misinterpreted and underestimated emotion. Donna struggled with emotional fear until the age of 30, when she experienced a sort of spiritual intervention. Her subsequent years of study on the effects of fear led her to create the Emotional Freedom Process™, by which you can begin to reveal and release this powerful and at times detrimental emotion. The removal of emotional fear will help free you to: express and experience love, pursue your dreams, and to create deep fulfillment in life.
☯ Intimacy and Internal Bonding – Donna believes that your ability to be emotionally intimate – knowing, accepting, and revealing your deepest nature – is primary for healing and for connecting with another. Her sessions set the stage for this, as well as establish and strengthen your connection to your core and essential self.
☯ Empowered Communication – Verbal practices are incorporated to exemplify true, deep and empowered communication. This enhances your ability to feel more empowered out in the world.
☯ Getting Clear and Committed – People don’t pursue their dreams and ideal life most often because 1) they’ve adopted the belief that their dreams aren’t worth pursuing, 2) they aren’t clear about what they want, 3) they don’t believe in their abilities to fulfill them, or 4) they don’t feel worthy of their dreams. Donna’s work gets at the core of these reasons, and then empowers you to go for what you really want.
☯ Conscious Relationships and Loving – Donna’s years of work in Tantra and sexual healing aids women in honoring themselves in a way that creates a feeling of personal and emotional safety. This confidence ultimately invites deeper connection and better sexual relations with one’s partner.
Overall Results
Working with Donna causes internal as well as external changes—sometimes subtle, sometimes large and sweeping. As you open to insights, release what doesn’t work, and practice what you learn, you can experience a massive increase in the natural flow of joy and well-being in you life!
“My work with Donna has helped me release some deep-seated issues that were holding me back in life. I am now more open and available to life, and doing what inspires me most; for this, I thank her. With her ability to intuit and see the truth, she is someone I can trust to help determine and uncover the root causes of issues and then help clear them. She is a true and gifted healer.” J.C., Producer/Writer
For more testimonials from those who have already experienced Donna’s powerful work, click HERE.
Book Your Session!
To book your 15-minute session, or for more information, click HERE.
To book your 30-minute session, or for more information, click HERE.
To book your 60-minute session, or for more information, click HERE.
Important note: Although this work is often cathartic, it is not psychotherapy or a replacement for medical treatment.
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Post #4 on COURAGE –
“If we’re growing, we’re always going to be out of our comfort zone.” John Maxwell*
Well said. From my perspective, Growing is synonymous with Courage.
I have worked with people who believe that ‘if they only had courage (or more of it), they’d be less fearful’. NOT TRUE!
“Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear.” James Neil Hollingworth
I couldn’t have said it better myself!
If you’ve ever felt that fear, lack of confidence, personal limitations, and the like are keeping you hostage? Are they keeping you from moving steadily in a productive direction?
Go back to what’s important to you.
It can be your life purpose, or it simply be what brings you joy. Allow what you’re passionate about to motivate you, and get really good at something that you’re passionate about. If you’re able to find that sweet spot where your passion merges with what you’re great at, you’ll find a sense of safety while you’re stepping outside your comfort zone. This will perpetuate growth.
You’ll feel good about yourself, you’ll allow yourself to stay in an upward spiral, and you’ll see doors open and possibilities occur that might not have appeared otherwise.
All good to you!
Donna M Thomas
Intuitive Empowerment Coach, Healing Conduit, Mastery Group Leader, Author
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This blog, and all my writings, are explorations into the wondrous, deep, and ever-evolving process of living, loving and growing. My intention with Pebbles for Thought is to empower and uplift, one post at a time.
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Here’s post #3 on COURAGE.
I’ll start this one off with a gorgeous quote from Mary Anne Radnacher.
“Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, “I will try again tomorrow.”
Man oh man!
I love this one because it speaks to the times when it isn’t necessarily easy to have courage — when you have to reach REALLY deep to start the next day, or even take the next step, with dignity.
I know I’ve had a day or two like this in my life. I imagine you have, too.
Don’t you find that it’s easier to have courage when people are cheering you on, or when you’re acknowledged for the results. It’s another thing altogether when it’s just you at the end of the night after a challenging day, week, month, year…
All good to you!
Donna M Thomas
Intuitive Life Coach, Healing Conduit, Mastery Group Leader, Author
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This blog, and all my writings, are explorations into the wondrous, deep, and ever-evolving process of living, loving and growing. My intention with Pebbles for Thought is to empower and uplift, one post at a time.
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Here is post #2 on COURAGE.
“The definition of courage is grace under fire.” Ernest Hemingway
Isn’t this an elegant way to look at courage! The idea that grace has anything to do with courage is deep…and I think true.
If you think about it, many who are courageous do seem to have a certain grace about them.
Perhaps it’s that showing courage over and over again has carved you into a graceful person.
Perhaps it’s that those of you who house grace in their being are more apt to show courage.
Perhaps it’s both.
Either way, in my book, this way of being “graceful under fire” is certainly something to aspire to!
All good to you!
Donna M Thomas
Intuitive Life Coach, Healing Conduit, Mastery Group Leader, Author
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This blog, and all my writings, are explorations into the wondrous, deep, and ever-evolving process of living, loving and growing. My intention with Pebbles for Thought is to empower and uplift, one post at a time.
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I’ve been up to my eyeballs in alligators and not been online much. I’ve missed you all!
For the next few days, I’m going to post on one of my favorite subjects: COURAGE.
“Courage is moving at the speed of fear.” (Don’t know who first said this.)
I just LOVE what this quote suggests: that fear doesn’t have to stop you, nor is it something for you to ignore.
Courage is something that you develop as a response to fear.
You don’t run from it. You acknowledge the fear, head on, then keep moving!
All good to you!
Donna M Thomas
Intuitive Empowerment Coach, Healing Conduit, Mastery Group Leader, Author
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This blog, and all my writings, are explorations into the wondrous, deep, and ever-evolving process of living, loving and growing. My intention with Pebbles for Thought is to empower and uplift, one post at a time.
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As I enter into what is a particularly deeply meaningful birthday, I took my own advice:
Ask yourself, “Who am I, and What am I here to do?” Do this until you answer, with resonance and authenticity, Who you are meant to be, and What you are committed to do before you leave this world. ∞ DT
I sat in my sunlit meditation space and earnestly asked these questions. In a surprisingly short span of time, my answers came.
The answers were essentially the same as the last time I asked, with some subtle but meaningful changes.
After taking a few minutes to swim in the delicious juices of connection, clarity came around some choices I had been muddled and confused about for some time. “Ah ha! Thank you.” I said. Got it!” Then came the feeling of invigoration, and the passion for my work was rejuvenated.
My birthday gift to you is to recommend that you, too, adopt this process periodically.
Revisiting why you’re here and recommitting to what you’re here for is a powerful practice!
All good to you!
Donna M Thomas
Intuitive Life Coach, Healing Conduit, Mastery Group Leader, Author
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This blog, and all my writings, are explorations into the wondrous, deep, and ever-evolving process of living, loving and growing. My intention with Pebbles for Thought is to empower and uplift, one post at a time.
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“Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed.” ― Albert Einstein
I find this quote thought provoking, and often true.
I often coach women who fall in love with men for who they can be. They have a Picture of the man they want/need and assume ‘he’ will some day become that man. When the man makes different choices than the woman Expected, she is disappointed and heartbroken.
I have also coached men who fall in love with the idealized picture of the woman that’s in their head. In that moment, his woman usually matches his picture to some degree other another. His picture doesn’t change. He keeps it living in his head, and then feels disappointed or threatened when ‘she’, the Ever Changing Woman…changes.
Bottom line is that neither love the real person. They love ‘the picture‘.
Expectations are the bread and butter of disappointment. And herein lies the rub.
There is no avoiding change, as we are in a constant state of it. What is more the issue is the speed and direction of the change. We are in a age where many re-invent themselves over and over again in their lifetimes. This can be out of choice, but often it is out of necessity…to create a better life…to thrive.
Being comfortable with change, consciously directing that change, and changing together, in a way that is complementary, is the opportunity for all couples.
I leave you with this quote that has been one of my favorites for over 30 years. The philosophy behind it is deep and clear, and one that, when adopted, can cultivate a atmosphere of mutual inspiration and growth.
In it’s essence, it speaks of approaching personal relationships from a place of perpetual discovery and support.
“Nothing you become will disappoint me; I have no preconception that I’d like to see you be or do. I have no desire to foresee you, only to discover you. You can’t disappoint me” ― Mary Haskell
Donna M Thomas
Intuitive Life Coach, Healing Conduit, Mastery Group Leader, Author
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This blog, and all my writings, are explorations into the wondrous, deep, and ever-evolving process of living, loving and growing. My intention with Pebbles for Thought is to empower and uplift, one post at a time.
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Quotable Quotes:
“Being right doesn’t make us safe…or happy. It is more fulfilling to aim for authenticity and transparency.” ∞ DT
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